what I know about love part 1
1. Love and Social Media
I mostly reserve my facebook page for encouraging words, friend check-ins, photos, and thoughts on celebrity gossip. But a few days ago I came across a subject that struck me to the point that I found it worthy to post on facebook, though it did not fit into those catagories above.
Rather, it was, how shall we say, controversial?
What happened went something like this:
In a matter of a one second click, my facebook wall went from peace and love to world war three.
I thought that my MScard would apply for facebook posts as well but it didnt. It so didnt.
After a few hours of letting people debate and hate via comments, I decided to delete the post, though my opinion remained on the subject.
Where is the love in social media?
I know that many people find it easier to say things online than in person because, well, just listen to Brad Paisley’s song “Im so much cooler online”.
But I really think it comes down to “if you have nothing nice to say, then dont say anything at all”.
If you dont like that post, instead of saying anything negative or derogatory or hateful, just ignore it. Dont like it. Delete that person as a friend. Move on.
Why waste energy creating hate on social media?
So after that experience, I decided that I would go back to the facebook page of just peace and love.
As election time comes near, remember this: no one was moved by a hateful post on their wall.
Send either a message or give that person a call (if you dont have their number then why are you facebook friends with them?). People have dignity through their facebook pages. Their facebook page, through the over empowerment of social meda, has become a part of their identity.
Dont poop stain on it.
2. Love is a choice.
I believe every girl should read the book “He is just not into you”. Its not for the light of heart disclaimer.
Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs. Someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe… it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is… just… moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment, you never gave up hope.
This explains it all.
We as girls all want the happy ending story of love.
But I have recently been reminded that love is a choice. No relationship is going to be extremely easy. And there will be hard times. And with that, there will be good times.
What makes love love is choosing to love that person despite all the imperfections.
You fall into love. You choose to stay in love.
I said this is part one because I only had two thoughts on what I know about love at this time. (:
The bottom line:
You are no better than anyone else. Love each and every person the same. Because we all breath the same air, all have the same structure. We were all born the same and we will all eventually die.
So what matters is how you love the ones around you, online and offline. And its not just something you wake up doing.
Its something you choose to do.
Love, Eliz
